Contributed by Nancy Oelklaus

Rewriting life scripts isn’t for people who want it; it’s not even for people who need it; it’s for people who do it. And the most lasting rewrites come from simple solutions that are easy to do.

Recently a client said to me, “I want to get reconnected with my husband. We’ve been traveling, spending time with extended family. I’ve been distracted, and I want to reconnect with him. How do I do it?”

This question is one that someone might choose to turn into a problem, looking for solutions in books, therapy, analysis, and exotic, complicated procedures. There is an easier path.

The simple solution this woman chose is to look into her husband’s eyes when he is talking to her. “So often when he talks, I’m doing something else,” she noted, “And I can change that.” To look deeply into someone’s eyes is a trust-builder. And when that other person is someone you truly love, a heart connection is made without any words being spoken at all. Instant connection.

A second suggestion is that, when she hears the door open in the late afternoon as her husband is returning home, she will greet him by saying, “Welcome home!” and really mean it.

A rewritten script through simple solutions that make the heart smile.

Nancy Oelklaus, Ed.D, is an executive coach and author of Journey from Head to Heart: Living and Working Authentically and Alphabet Meditations for Teachers: Everyday Wisdom for Educators. She is an educator, an entrepreneur, a speaker and workshop leader. She lives on the rim of a canyon in Austin, TX, with her husband, Harlan, and Feathers, a curly white lap dog.